Let me begin this post by saying I think my kids are too young for sleepovers. They are six and eight-years-old, and this is NOT a regular habit I want to start. I place a high value on sleep and the benefits gained from routine and rest.
I’m glad I got that out of the way…now I can tell you how I caved in on this last night!
Our neighbors are getting ready to leave for the remainder of the summer. Our boys really enjoy each other. They run to play with each other daily, and they have a lot in common, both in terms of interests and personalities. The other boy’s mom even told me, “my son says he wishes your son could be his brother.” Now that’s love.
They’ve been repeatedly asking for a sleepover. I have said no over and over, for one reason or another. Last night, though, I finally succumbed…because my son’s buddy will be gone for weeks, and I know it will leave a void. For all the structure and discipline that I want in my kid’s lives, I thought one night of good, clean summer fun won’t kill anyone. So I said yes and made two little boys thrilled beyond belief.
And then my daughter stared at me and wondered aloud, “When do I get to have a sleepover?”
I explained that she was WAY too young. Sleep is too important, and she would feel awful the next day. Not only that, a lot of little girls her age are afraid to spend the night away from home.
She’s a second child, though. She’s not afraid. She’s ready. I know this about her.
So, in the spirit of summer fun, I told her she could have a sleepover too!! I would “sleep over” in her room. She has two twin beds, so this is an easy suggestion to make, knowing I won’t have to endure elbows to the head and feet shoved into my ribs. She was thrilled with this creative idea that gave her something special of her own to celebrate!
My sweet girl and I had a lovely ending together while the boys were off being boys at the neighbor’s house. I smiled knowing our nights would be nothing alike.
We snuggled together and watched the movie, Dolphin Tale. We cheered and cried for Summer the dolphin. We got to bed a little late, but not so much that it would ruin our day today. We said prayers and giggled and gave thanks for so much fun. We both fell instantly asleep with smiles on our faces….and this is what I woke up to…
I opened my eyes to this little angelic face in the bed next to me. I could see her one-month baby picture hanging just over her shoulder on the wall behind her. What a difference six years make. She’s so big now…but always my baby.
I’m so glad I allowed a special summer sleepover night last night. My son came home this morning simply exuberant, sharing how much fun he had with his friend. My daughter shared with her brother how much fun she had with mommy. I shared with God how grateful I am that he made me a mother to two special kids.
As parents, we can want so much for our kids. We can take our responsibilities so seriously. We can be so intentional with values, words, actions and more. We can be driven to teach them what we deem important for their success.
But we need to remember to just put it all aside sometimes and just simply cherish them. Love them like only we can.
I’m so thankful to start my day today with this beautiful reminder. Peace cannot exist without love. Though I may have a few tired kids later this afternoon, I have refreshed my spirit and will be able to manage it. Just because I love them.
Thanks for being with us today. Until tomorrow….Peace Out!